I’m Not Healing to Be More Tolerable

I am not healing so I can be easier to deal with.

I am not doing this work so I can smile more, react less, or make other people more comfortable with my boundaries. I’m not softening my edges to fit back into spaces that required my silence.

Healing didn’t make me quieter.

It made me clearer.

It didn’t make me more agreeable.

It made me more selective.

I didn’t do all this work just to be digestible again. I healed so I could stand in my truth without flinching. So I could say no without rehearsing. So I could walk away without guilt chewing at my spine.

If my healing made me harder to tolerate, that tells me everything I need to know about who benefited from my unhealed version.

Tag line:

Unhinged But Alive — healed, not harmless.